Ukuphucula izakhono zakho zokuxoxisana ukuphucula umgangatho wakho
"Kubiza kakhulu."
" Umncintiswano wakho uthengisa into efanayo ...."
Uninzi lwabathengi kunye nabanini-shishini bava ingxelo njengolu suku ngalunye. Oko kuthetha ukuba kubalulekile ukufunda indlela yokuthetha ngokuthe ngempumelelo. Nazi izicwangciso ezinhlanu eziza kukunceda ukuphucula izakhono zakho zokuxoxisana kwaye uqhube ngaphezulu kweedola kumgca wakho ophantsi :
Funda ukucima
I-flin ingenye yezona zinto zidlulileyo kwiintetho zengxoxo kodwa enye yeyona nto isetyenzisiweyo.
I-flinch is a reaction response to an offer or price during interaction face-to-face. Injongo yale nqhinga kukukwenza abanye abantu bazive bengakhululekile malunga nesibonelelo abasinikezayo. Nanku umzekelo wendlela osebenza ngayo.
Umthengisi ucaphuna intengo ethile kwinkonzo ethile. Ukutshisa kuthetha ukuba uyaphendula ngokumemeza, "Ufuna kangakanani?!!!" Umele uvele ungothuke kwaye uyamangalisa ukuba banokuba nesibindi sokucela eso sibalo. Ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu ungumthengisi onobuchule, baya kuphendula ngeendlela ezimbini;
a) baya kuba bengakhululeki kwaye baqale ukuzama ukulinganisa intengo yabo,
b) baya kunika imvume yokukhawuleza.
Qaphela ukuba abantu bahlala becela okungaphezulu kunokuba balindele ukufumana
Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka umelane nesilingo ukunciphisa ngokuzenzekelayo intlawulo yakho okanye unikeze isaphulelo. Ndakhawuleza ndicele isaphulelo esiphezulu kwiesibini zezicathulo ezinethemba lokufumana isiqingatha sento endiyicelileyo.
Ndandimangalisiwe xa umnini wevenkile evumelana nesicelo sam.
Umntu onolwazi oluqhelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo wenza ngcono
Kufuneka ufunde okuninzi malunga nemeko yomntu kwaye ulungiselele iseshoni yokuthintana. Le nto ibaluleke kakhulu intsebenziswano yokuthengisa abathengi. Ukuba ishishini lakho linemali yokuthengisa kunye / okanye imbali yenkonzo yabathengi kunye nomnye umntu qinisekisa ukuba uyihlolisise ngaphambili (kwaye ulungele ukuphendula ngokubhekisele kuyo nayiphi na imiba evelele).
Buza imibuzo eninzi malunga nokuthenga kwabo. Funda oko kubalulekile kubo kunye neemfuno zabo kunye nokufunwa kwabo kwaye balungele ukunikela isisombululo kwiingxaki zabo. Ukuphuhlisa umkhuba wokubuza imibuzo enje;
- "Yintoni eyakwenza ukuba uhlolisise ukuthenga kwesi simo?"
- "Ngubani na othe wathetha naye?"
- "Yintoni oyenayo ngamava ...?"
- "Ziziphi iifowuni ozisebenzisana nazo?"
- "Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe ngale nto?"
Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde okuninzi malunga nabakhuphiswano bakho ngokusemandleni akho. Oku kuya kunceda unqobe ixabiso lezinto ezichasayo kwaye ukhusele umntu ukuba asebenzise umqhubi wakho njengomlinganiselo.
Ziqhelise kuwo onke amathuba
Uninzi lwabantu luyanqikaza ukuxoxisana ngenxa yokuba abanakho ukuzithemba. Ukuphuhlisa le ntembelo ngokuxoxisana rhoqo. Cela izaphulelo ezivela kubaboneleli bakho. Njengomthengi, qulunqa umkhwa wokucela ikhefu lexabiso xa uthenga kwisitolo sokuthengisa. Nemibuzo embalwa okanye iingxelo ongazisebenzisayo ukuzisebenzisa izakhono zentetho:
- "Kuya kufuneka wenze okungcono kunoko."
- "Liliphi uhlobo lokuphuhlisa olinike namhlanje?"
- "Kubiza kakhulu." Lindela impendulo yabo emva koko.
- Funda ukucima.
Yiba mnandi kwaye uphikelele kodwa ungafuni. Yiba nobuchule ngamaxesha onke - ungakhathazeki kwaye unomsindo xa uxoxiswano lungaqhubeki.
Ukuzibophezela ukuxoxisana ngawo onke amathuba kuza kukunceda ukhululeke, uqiniseke kwaye uphumelele.
Gcina uhambo lwakho lokuhamba
Kungcono ukuhamba ekuthengiseni kunokuba wenze umrhumo omkhulu okanye unikezele ngokuthe ngqo imveliso okanye inkonzo yakho. Emva kokuya kwiindibano zam workshop, abathengi bavame ukuxelela ukuba esi sicwangciso soxoxiswano sibaxhobisa kakhulu xa sisebenzisana nabathengi. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukukwenza xa uphakathi kwexabiso lokuthengisa okanye ixesha lokuthengisa elincinci. Kodwa, khumbula ukuba kuya kuhlala kukho umntu ozakuthengisa.
Ngaba wenza njalo nantoni na kutheni ungenzi kakuhle?
Ukuxoxisana yindlela yokuphila kwamanye amazwe. Kwaye abaninzi abantu baxoxisana ngandlela-thile phantse yonke imihla. Faka ezi zicwangciso zokuxoxisana kwaye uza kuphawula umlinganiselo kwizakhono zakho zokuthetha ngokukhawuleza.