Iingcebiso zokuthenga okanye ukuthengisa, izivumelwano zokuxoxisana
Iingxoxo zoshishino zihlala zikhohlisayo, kuba abantu babandakanyeka, kwaye abantu banemigodi, iimvakalelo, kunye nokulindela ngemali, amandla kunye nesimo.
Ndabandakanyeka kwingxoxo ukuthenga ishishini, kwiingxoxo zentsebenziswano, kunye neengxoxo zentsebenzo yengqesho (ukusuka kumacala amabini). Ndiyifunde (indlela enzima, ngokukodwa) into endiyenzayo nento eningayenzayo. Iingxoxo zoshishino zibandakanya iikontraka , oku kuthetha amaxwebhu omthetho okufuneka aqondwe kwaye avunyelwene ngawo onke amabini.
Yaye, ewe, izabelo ziya kufuneka zibandakanyeke. Kodwa kukho iindlela zokwenza inkohlakalo ingaphantsi, ngokulandela izikhokelo ezilula.
1. Yiba nomonde.
Inkqubo yokuthintana kwintsebenzo ithatha ixesha elide liza kuthatha. Ukunyuka kuya kuchitha imali kuphela kwaye kwandise uxinzelelo lwakho. Yonke into malunga nenkqubo yokuthatha inxaxheba ithatha ixesha, yaye ihlala ithatha ixesha elingakumbi kunokuba ucinge ukuba liya kuyenza. Xa uxoxisana nentengiso yezoshishino, umzekelo, unokufumana iingxoxo zineenkcukacha ezincinci njengesiqhankqalazo esicelwa ngu shishini. Ingabandakanya uphando ukuze ubone ukuba i-lien ihlawulwe, kwaye oku kuthatha ixesha. Hambisa kwenye into uze ubuye kamva. Thatha umphefumlo onzulu.
2. Khupha iindleko zakho.
Zonke iintetho zihluke-abantu bahluke kwaye imeko iyahluke. Yintoni eyenzekayo ekugqibeleni ayithethi nto. Amava omnye umntu akathethi nto. Ukuphulaphulwa kwamanye amava kunokukunika okulindelekileyo.
Laphula amabali abanye ngokuqaphela.
Umhlobo uthengisa amazinyo akhe, asebenze iminyaka engama-40. Uthi ukuhamba kwenkqubo yokuthengisa ishishini ngamava amatsha. Uthe ufanele athathe ingqondo yokufunda kwaye angacingi ukuba uyazi yonke into.
3. Musa ukwenza iingcinga malunga nomnye umntu.
Yithatha into engcono uze ukwazi okubi kakhulu. Ukungena kwincoko elindele ukuba omnye umntu uphume ukuze akuvumele ukuba wenze ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye indlela osebenza ngayo inokulimaza isikhundla sakho.
Ukuba uxoxisana nokuthengwa kweshishini, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba kutheni umnini-mveliso uhlawula ishishini. Ukucinga ukuba oko umnikazi akuxelela ukuba kuchanekileyo akuyi kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuthetha. Ngamanye amaxesha ufanele ufunde phakathi kwemigca kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uhlola oko umntu akuxelelayo.
4. Gcina iimvakalelo zakho.
Ezinye iingxoxo ziya kuhlaselwa. Ndiyakhumbula ukuba ndixoxisana ngokubambisana njengelungu leqela lolawulo. I-negotiator union union ithi ezinye izinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu malunga nabafazi kwiingxoxo, kwaye ndasabela ngokukhawuleza. Ndandilungele ukuphendula xa umphathiswa okhokelayo ebeka isandla sakhe ngobumnene kwisandla sam, kwaye ndafumana umyalezo: "Makuhambe."
Ukunikela kwiimvakalelo zakho kunokukhokelela kumagama anomsindo kwaye iingxoxo zingaphula ngokukhawuleza. Funda ukuthabatha umoya, memela ukuyeka, okanye ugxininise into ethile ngaphandle komntu okwenza ube nemvakalelo.
5. Yenza uphando lwakho.
Qonda imeko njengoko unakho konke ngaphambi kokuba uxoxisane.
Xa uxoxisana ukuze uthenge ishishini , khangela ukuba unokufumana isizathu esivakalayo sokuthengisa. Ukwenza uphando lwakho kuthetha ukukwazi ukhetho lwakho. Yintoni eyenza ukhuphiswano? Ziziphi ixabiso elithelekiswayo? Ukunyamekela ngokukhawuleza kuyincandelo ebalulekileyo yenkqubo; musa ukunqumla.
Uxubuswano nabathengisi , umzekelo, iNgcali yezoLwazi uGary Marion uthi kufanele uyenze oko akubiza ngokuthi "ukukhangela," oko kukuthi, ukuthengisa iintengiso, ngaphambi kokuzama ukuxoxisana nekhontrakthi entsha kunye nomthengisi. Ukuba nolwazi luza kukugcina ukuba ungacingi malunga nokuba ufumana into engcono okanye ungayifumani.
6. Cinga ngongoma.
Oku akusiyo umdlalo we-zero-sum, apho umntu omnye ephumelela kwaye omnye ulahlekelwa. Bobabini amaqela angaphuma phambili. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokuthe ngqo kwiintetho zemivuzo. U-Penny Loretto, kwingxoxo yokuxoxisana nokwanda komvuzo, uthi,
Ekupheleni kweengxoxo ufuna amaqela omabini ukuba avume ukuba iingxoxo zenze ukuba imeko iphumelele. Ufuna ukuziva ulungile malunga nento oye uthetha ngayo okanye unokufumana uvakalelwa; kodwa ufuna ukuba umqeshi abe nomuvo wokuthi banako ukufumana umqeshwa obalaseleyo ngomvuzo ongenamalungelo kunye nokuba iingxoxo zazinzuzo kumabini omabini.
7. Cinga ngebhokisi.
ngamanye amagama, cinga ngobuchule. Hlola amathuba amasha wokufumana into nganye efunayo. Ukuba iingxoxo ziya kugqitywa, zithatha ixesha. Icala ngalinye lingadinga ukupholisa. Buyela ngokucinga ukuba wonke umntu ufuna le ngxaki kwaye akhuthaze wonke umntu ukuba acinge ngendlela yokwenza ngayo. Khumbula, yonke into iyaxoxwa.