Uyazi nawuphi umbuzo wabo oqhelekileyo?
Ewe, uqikelele: "Ngaba ikhona na indlela endinokuyenza ngayo okanye ndinqobe ukwesaba kwam?"
Abaninzi bethu banomnye ukuchasana nokubiza okubandayo, kwaye abanye abantu endincokola nabo banokutshatyalaliswa kwesohlwayo kunye nemoya yefowuni ukubiza ukuba abakwazi ukucinga ukuba bayakwenza.
Ngandlela-thile, uloyiko lokubanda ngokubandayo lusebhedlele - kodwa alukho uhlobo lobulwelwe oluye lwapapashwa kwiTV okanye kumaphephandaba. Kuyinto engacacileyo kunye nomntu, umzabalazo wengqondo owenzeka ezinhliziyweni zethu nasezingqondweni zethu.
Ukwenkqiswa kokubanda ukubandayo kubangelwa yintlungu, yemihla ngemihla yabashishini abaninzi kunye nabathengi abaye baqeqeshwa kwiindlela zokuthengisa zendabuko.
Abaqeqeshi bezentengiso zendabuko baphendula imibuzo malunga nokubandayo besithi:
- "Yonke into enokuyenza yenze iifowuni ezininzi."
- "Konke omele ukwenze ukucinga iingcamango ezintle."
- "Yifunde ukwamukelwa njengenxalenye evamile yokuthengisa."
Ngamanye amazwi, "Yiphulo lakho ukuba awuphumelelanga ekuthengiseni."
Oku kufana nokuxelela umntu oyikayo ukuxhuma ebhodini lokudiza, "Ungabi yi-wimp! Jonga nje!"
Kwamava am, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abanokukwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabo ngaloo ndlela, kuba umyalezo osisiseko kukuba, ukuba uyaziphoqa ukuba wenze into engakhululekiyo, "ukwenza nje" kuya kusombulula ingxaki.
Kodwa oku kuyimpendulo engabonisi ukuqonda zonke izithintelo zengqondo ezijongene nokoyiko lokubanda.
Ngoko, uyayinqoba njani ukwesaba ukushayela?
Ngokombono wam, isisombululo silula, kwaye sisekelwe ekuqondeni iingcamango ezintathu ezilula:
Ehlelwe yiLaura Lake
- Akusiyo Inkohlakalo Yakho
Asikwazi ukunceda sicinge ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuthi xa abanye abantu beqhubeka besitshela ukuba into ayifanele ibe yingxaki, kodwa iimvakalelo zethu zangaphakathi zisitsho ukuba asikhululekile ukwenza oko.
Kukho uhlobo "lwamaqela emakhwenkwe asekudala" ukucinga ngengqondo ebonakalayo kumazwe angamaNgesi, kuquka ne-US, Canada, i-UK, i-Australia kunye ne-New Zealand, ethi, "Kwafuneka ndihlupheke ukuba ndiphumelele kwimpumelelo yokuthengisa, ngoko kufuneka, nakhona! "
Le ngcamango ivela kwiinkqubo zorhwebo zendabuko eziqhubekayo kwindlela yokwamkelwa.
Okokufuneka uyiqonde, nangona kunjalo, unokuba ukwesaba ukutshintshisa kubanda ngenxa yokuba mhlawumbi uye wavezwa kuphela kwiindlela zokuthengisa zendabuko, ezibangelwa ukukhanyela.
Ezi ndlela zisifundisa ukwenza iifowuni ezibandayo ngale ndlela: zichaze ngokwakho, uchaze oko ukwenzayo, zicebise inzuzo kumxhasi onokwenzeka ... uze uvale amehlo akho uze uthandazele ukuba abayi kuphendula ngokuthi "Uxolo, andinomdla" okanye "Uxolo, ndixakekile."
Ukuba usasebenzisa le ndlela yendabuko, mhlawumbi uva iimpendulo ezifana nalezi umzuzu uyeka ukuthetha.
Bayeka, kwaye oko bakwenzayo kukukwenza uzive ulahliwe - kwaye isizathu esaneleyo sokwenza ungathandeki, ukwesaba, kwaye ugweme ukubiza okubandayo.
Ukubiza okubanda kungabakho amava amahle xa ukuchaswa kuyona mpendulo eqhelekileyo oyifumanayo?
- Ingaba Ukuzijonga Kwakho Okungahambiyo okanye Okunyamezelayo?
Nanini na xa ndixoxa nabantu malunga nokoyiko lokubanda ngokubandayo, bahlala besitsho ukuba bayesaba ukwenza iifowuni ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukubonwa njengento "enobudlova."
Le yinye inxalenye yemfazwe yangaphakathi-bayazibetha ngenxa yokuba bengabonakaliyo kwaye bengenakho ukuzithemba ukuba benze ulandelelwano olulandelayo, kodwa abafuni ukubiza ngokuba besaba.
Nantsi iindaba ezilungileyo: kukho umgangatho ophakathi phakathi "nobudlova" kwaye ungenzi. "
Yindawo apho ungaba yintoni ohlala ngayo ngelixa usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ngokubiza okubandayo, ngaphandle kokuvalelwa kwakhona.
Vula umdlalo weMidlalo ™ ubonisa indlela ongayenza ngayo ngokukhawuleza ekusebenzeni ngokubandayo ngaphandle kokubangela ukukhishwa kwabaxumi. Khawucinge nje ngamathuba (kunye nemali engenayo). - Funda ukuvumela ulwimi lwakho ukuba lufanisane nokucinga kwakho
Ukuba unako ukuzibeka kwindawo apho unokuvumela ukuba uhambe uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka usebenze usebenzisa ukubizwa kobusika "izikripthi" kunye nokuziphatha, uzakufumana ngokuzenzekelayo usebenzisa ulwimi oza kulusebenzisa kwincoko yendalo.
Ukusebenzisa amagama angokwemvelo kunye neengongoma-uthetha ngendlela ozaziyo ngayo nomntu owaziyo, unokuguqula ukubiza okubandayo ibe ngamava aqabulayo nevelisayo.
Kwaye, njengoko uvumela ukuhamba kwindlela yokudala ebandayo yokufunda ebandayo, apho umkhiqizo okanye inkonzo yakho yindlela yakho yodwa yokwenza intetho yefowuni enethemba, uza kwenza utshintsho olubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke: uya kuqala ukucinga lokufikelela kwiingxaki ezingenakwenzeka kwimibono yakho, kodwa kwizinto zazo.
Ndithini na loo nto?
Cinga ukuba bekuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba unokuva iingcamango zakho ngeengxaki abazifumanayo - kwaye isisombululo sakho sinokusombulula.
Okona kubaluleke ngakumbi, cinga ukuba unokwenza amagama kunye neengongoma ezisetyenziswayo njengoko zicinga ngeengxaki zabo, kwaye ukuba ungathatha olo lwimi uze ulususe ngendlela yakho yokubanda.
"Ewe, kodwa ndingayenza njani loo nto?" ungacela.
Kulula. Mane ubuze abaklayenti bakho banokuthi ziphi iingxaki ezintathu eziphambili zemveliso okanye inkonzo yakho esisombululo.
Xa utshintshe ukucinga kwakho, awukwazi ukukunceda ukutshintsha ulwimi olusebenzisayo, okukuvumela ukuba uxhumeke ngendlela entsha enomnye umntu obizayo.
Ukuba unako ukuvumela ukuhamba kwenkqubo yakho yenkolo yexesha elidala kwaye uvule ukuba kubekho indlela engokwemvelo, ekhululekile yokufowunela umnxeba-into engabangeli ukukhanyela - uya kumangaliswa kukuba kulula kangakanani Ndiza kuphelisa kwaye ndinqobe ukwesaba kobizo olubandayo.