Indlela yokudala ubudlelwane obuzuzisayo
Umcebisi akayi kuba ngumcebisi wakho kuphela, kodwa umhlobo wakho kunye nesigidimi. Oku akukwenzekayo ukuzithemba ngokukhawuleza kunye nomdla wokwenu kuthatha ixesha. Ubeka itoni ekuqaleni kwentsapho ngokubonisa ukuzimisela kwakho kwinkqubo.
Ungayilungisa njani isiseko apho ungakha ulwalamano oluqinileyo?
U-Noah Cirincione of Advance Mentoring, inkonzo enceda ekufumaneni abacebisi bezentengiselwano, uthi ukulungelelaniswa nokulungiswa kubalulekile.
"Ukuphindaphinda koqhagamshelwano kubalulekile kubudlelwane bokugcina inkqubo yokufunda iqhubela phambili. Ingxoxo nganye entsha kunye nomcebisi kufuneka ifake ukuhlaziywa kwi-mentee kwizinto umcebisi ocetywe kwintetho yangaphambili."
Ukhumbuza ukuba umcebisi kufuneka abe nxaxheba kumfanekiso omkhulu, kungekhona nje iinkcukacha. "Ukusebenzisana ukusekela iinjongo zeMentee kunokubaluleka. Akufanele kuphela umcebisi / umxokelelwano akhulume ngemicimbi yangoku, kufuneka bajolise kwiinjongo ezifutshane kunye nexesha elide."
Yiza kuzo zonke iintlanganiso ezilungiselelwe. Yiza idilesi yokurekhoda ozikhethayo: ipeni kunye nephepha, iPAA, i-laptop, okanye i-recorder yezwi. Thatha ixesha lokuphonononga amanqaku akho kunye nokusetha izinto ezisekelwe kumanqaku akho. Ngaphambi kwentlanganiso yakho ezayo, hlaziya ezo zinto uze wenze amanqaku malunga nesimo sabo. Nika amanqaku kwintlanganiso elandelayo kwingxoxo.
Kukho ngaphezulu kobudlelwane obuncedo bokuqeqesha kuneentlanganiso ezihleliweyo, nangona kunjalo.
UDenise Michaels, ingcali yokuthengisa osebenza nabalobi abathengisayo kakhulu uRobert Allen noMark Victor Hansen njengenxalenye yenkqubo yabo yokukhusela, uye waqeqesha amakhulu amashishini amashishini, kwaye uneengcebiso ezintle kwiinkalo zobungcali boqeqesho:
- Thatha umdla kumntu njengomntu. Ndinomcebisi we-intanethi owenza izigidi zeedola ngonyaka. Emva kokuba ndibuze umbuzo wam ndihlala ndimbuza malunga noko kwenzekayo ebomini bakhe, okanye ahlanganyele ihlaya okanye umxelele into ehlekisayo eyenzeka kum. Ngokomzekelo izolo ndambhalela kwaye emva kokubuza umbuzo endawutyikityile, "Ngomso ndiyathetha kwintlanganiso, ngoko ngoku ndihleli ehostini yam ehotele ekubanjeni kwi-imeyile ngeentlanzi zeenwele phezu kwentloko yam." Wabhala kwakhona ukuba wayehleka kakhulu kangangokuthi wacishe wawa esihlalweni sakhe. Akumele uxelele ibali lakho lobomi bonke, kodwa wenze uqobo kwaye wenze kube lula kwaye ujabule.
- Ungathi, "Ndingathanda ukukhetha ingqondo yakho." Ingqondo yam "yenziwe yome" kwaye ndiqala ukuziva ndixhalabile xa ndiva loo mazwi. Ndiyazi ixesha elichithayo kunye naloo mntu akayi kuba yinto nje kuphela. Endaweni yoko uthi, "Ndiya kuxabisa kakhulu imbono yakho." Kubuhle kakhulu kwaye ndifumana ingqiqo yokuba iya kuba yintetho enomdla kunokuba uphenywe ngezibane ezikhazimulayo.
- Ungazami ukubeka ingqalelo ixesha lakho lomcebisi ekuqaleni. Xhuma ngendlela ekhawulezayo kwaye elula. Musa ukummema kwisidlo esiya kuzinikezela kweeyure ezimbini. Ukuba ukhona kwi-semina mhlawumbi sele sele eneentlanganiso ezicwangcisiweyo. Ukuba usekhaya, unokufuna "ixesha eliphantsi". Ukunikezela ukuqhuba naye kwisikhululo se-moya okanye ukwabelana ngekhati. Buza into ayithandayo kwikhofi yakhe okanye itiye, mlethe i-Starbucks uze ufumane imizuzu eyi-15 esemgangathweni.
- Cacisa malunga nento oyenzayo nento oyifunayo. Kukho "ukucinga okubuhlungu" kwihlabathi. Ndiyamangaliswa kukuba abantu banomuvo wokuba babhale amaphepha amahlanu ukuvakalisa enye imbono. Oko kuthetha ukuba awukwazi ngokwenene oko uthethayo. Sebenza ekuphuhliseni intetho ephakamileyo yokuphakamisa intetho kunye nesitatimende semisebenzi. Cinga ngombuzo omnye okanye ezimbini ozifunayo uphendule kwaye ucinge ngamagama akho nendlela yokubuza loo mibuzo ngokucacileyo.
- Mamela, phulaphule, phulaphula oko bathethayo. Musa ukucinga malunga nazo zonke izizathu zokuba ungenako. Leyo yingxenye yesizathu sokuba ungabikho. Yithi, "Ndijongene neyada, yada, yada - ungayichazela njani ukulwa nale miqobo.
- Ndiyabulela umntu ngexesha labo. Batshele oko uza kwenza kwaye emva kokuba uthathe isenzo, qi niqiniseke ukuba ubazise oko wenzayo. Njalo, rhoqo, xelela njalo xa uthatha inyathelo lesinyathelo.
- Yenza kwakhona ngokukhawuleza kwangoko. Ukuba ubona inqaku elincinci ocinga ukuba uya kuyonwabela - thumela kuye ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba unorhwebo okanye ubuchule kwaye unako ukumnika ukunceda ngandlela-thile - nikela. Musa ukuthi, "Ndingakunceda njani?" Emva koko kufuneka baqikelele. Yithi, "Ndingumhle kakhulu ku- _____. Ukuba uke ufune i-_____ ndivumele umnxeba, ndiza kuvuya ngakumbi ukuncedisa nayiphi na indlela endinako. "Nangona akakuze akhutshwe kuyo, uya kukuxabisa.
- Funda ukwenza ikhonkco phakathi kwesizathu kunye nomphumo. Musa ukubeka umcebisi wakho kwindawo apho kufuneka afune khona konke. Awuyena umntwana. Umsebenzi womcebisi akukuthathi ngesandla ngesandla ngasinye. Kukukunika isikhokelo njengoko usendleleni yakho. Umsebenzi wakho ukukwenza unxibelelwano phakathi kwento ochazwe ngayo kwaye uza kuyisebenzisa njani ebomini bakho.