Gwema ezi mpazamo Xa ubhala malunga nabaxhasi abadala

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Uninzi lweengcali zokuguga, nangona kunjalo, uyavuma ukuba kukho izinto ezithile ongazifanele uyenze xa ubhala ngabantu okanye abantu abadala.

Nazi ezinye "ezingenzi" xa ubhala ngabaxhasi abadala:

1. Ungabizi "abadala," "asebekhulile," okanye "abantu abadala".

   Ingcamango epheleleyo yokuba ngubani "osemdala" uye wanciphisa kakhulu. Ewe, kumntwana omncinci, phantse nawuphi na umntu omdala usemdala, kodwa kuthi sonke, ngabantu kuphela abadala kakhulu kunokuba sibadala. Sebenzisa igama "elidala," alizange "lidala" - njengabantu "abadala."

   "Ukuguga" kufuneka kusetyenziswe nje njengenguqulelo, njengokuba "kwizigulane ezisebekhulile," kwaye kuphela xa ubhekisela kulabo basebegugile kwaye banobuthathaka. Ungayisebenzisi njengethoba eliqhelekileyo kubo bonke abo babomi bomva. Oku kubonwa njengokunyaniseka kuba akubona bonke abantu abadala abakhulayo.

   Nangona "ummi ophakamileyo" udlalwa rhoqo kumajelo eendaba, uyiphephe ekunxibelelaneni kwakho okungenzi nzuzo. Eli gama liphela nje kuphela. Kwabantu abaninzi asebekhulile, ekuthiwa ngummi ophakamileyo ngumntu ongu-"old" kunye "osebekhulile."

   "I-Senior" isamkelekile kubantu abaninzi asebekhulile, kodwa ungasebenzisi "ophezulu" ukuchaza nabani abangaphantsi kweminyaka engama-65. Kukho ubungqina bokuba i-boomers ayinakuyithandi eli gama xa lisetyenziswe kubo. Omnye intatheli ovelele wathi le ilebula "mhlawumbi yayinomzuzu wayo.Ili gama lithwaxwa ngamacandotypes." Iqukethe ama-dentures kunye nezaphulelo, ukuncipha kunye nokungasebenzi ... "

1. Musa ukubhekisela kubo njengama-crones, i-curmudgeons, i-geezers, okanye nayiphi na inguqu ye "golide."

   
   Mhlawumbi le migaqo yayisidla kamnandi. Awuyikratshi ngoku. Gwema amagama kunye nemibandela eyenza abantu baqhagamshelane okanye bathethe ukunxibelelana okungadingekile, okufana "nobudala obuthile." Nokuba uthetha nge "minyaka yegolide" kunengxaki, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba kubonisa ukuphela kokutshona kwelanga okanye imibala ekwindla, kwaye sele isetyenziswe ngokubhekiselele kwiminyaka yomhlalaphantsi.

1. Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba abantu asebekhulile bangakwazi ukuhamba baze bathethe.

   
   Singayiva i-gee-whiz ithoni yombhali othi, "UTom uneminyaka engama-78, kodwa usasebenza njengomfundisi we-bungee-jumping-instructing." Ewe, mhlawumbi oku kuphawulekayo, kodwa umlimi wasekhaya, utitshala, umgijimi, umvolontiya? Enyanisweni, vela igama elithi "usebenza," kuba libonisa ukuba akuqhelekanga ukuba umntu omdala asebenze. Musa ukuthetha iminyaka yobudala ngaphandle kokuba kusebenza ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye ininzi ixesha alikho.

2. Musa ukuzithoba okanye ulahle abantu abadala

   
   Ababhali kufuneka baphephe imiqathango enjenge-feisty, spry, sweet, encinci, inqongqo, i-eccentric, i-senile, i-grandmotherly kunye namanye amagama afanayo. Gwema amabinzana anesiqhelo esithi "Uneminyaka engama-80 ubudala." Ungathethi "u-sweetie" xa uthetha kumfazi osekhulile.
   
   Musa ukusebenzisa abantu asebekhulile njengengqungquthela yehlaya. Abantu abaninzi, abangasayi kubona amahlaya obuzwe bamkelekile, babonakala benganandaba nemiphumo yamahlaya ngabantu abadala. Abantu asebekhulile badla ngokumangalelwa ngokungabi nantoni xa bechasa amahlaya anjalo.

3. Musa ukugxininisa abantu abadala

   
   Ucinga ntoni xa ucinga umfazi osekhulile okanye indoda endala? I-Glamorous Sophia Loren kunye noSean Connery abangapheliyo? Okanye abalinganiswa be-cartoon efana no-Abe no-Mona, abazali bakaHomer Simpson?
   
   Abantu abadala bafana nabantu abancinci. Bajonge i-stylish kunye ne-dowdy, ngabayi-jet-setters kunye nabagibeli bebhasi, kwaye abahlali bexakeka ngakumbi kunabantu abaselula. Ezinye zizinzileyo, kwaye ezinye zilungile, zasendle. Bayadlala i-tennis, i-yoga, isitya, kunye neetitela zetatata. Abantu abadala kakhulu basebenze iminyaka yobudala bexesha lomhlalaphantsi, ngelixa abanye behamba ngegalufa. Abaninzi abakwi-Facebook, ngelixa abanye bengayithinti ngisho nefowuni.
   
   Gwema ukulahla bonke abantu asebekhulile kunoma yimuphi udidi - oluhle, olusebenzayo okanye oluthathaka. Baye nje ngabantu abanjengomnye umntu kwaye beza kufumaneka ngendlela emangalisayo yeembonakalo, izitayela kunye namakhono.

Yintoni eyenzekayo xa umbutho wakho uphahla abantu abadala? Akunjalo, abaxhasi abasemdala banokukuphepha, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kuthathwa njengento ephezulu. Siyaqaphela ukuba singabonakali ngokugqithisileyo, ubulili okanye ubuchule. Kutheni sifuna ukuphatha ubudala?

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